My friend Kerrie is very straightforward about what’s going to happen to her when she dies. She’s always known. What? She’s only in her 30s!

No way, she tells me, will she be cremated! She’ll be buried in a cemetery in a village outside Melbourne, with the rest of her family. As she talks, I realise she can see the place in her mind’s eye and it’s a pleasant picture. She knows which funeral director will handle everything.

How can she know this all so well?

Her family has always been buried in that cemetery. There are plots reserved. That funeral director has always looked after her family.

Decisions are easier to make with the support of tradition. But if you don’t have this anchor, you may want to work out a plan. I’d be happy to help.