Ideas & how-tos

How to make death a love project in restricted times

How to make death a love project in restricted times

How to make death a love project is quite a question at the moment. Mourners can't be physically close up. In hospitals there are tough restrictions on visitor admission. It's really difficult, and yet I'd like to highlight in this post that thinking and talking about...

How to go to a funeral

How to go to a funeral

Talking with my friend Kara – she’s 30 – some time back, it dawned on me that she didn’t know how to go to a funeral.  That stopped me in my tracks. I had to take a moment and think about it. How does one know and what’s important?  Her friend’s dad had been...

Loss, heat and fire, and time down in the forest

In the first week of December Gai and I visited Hannah in the forest. On the way down the hill we picked rich deep red frangipani blossoms. Very Hannah we agreed. A little further on we met Hutcho and Jeremy and the bulldozer driver Jeff. They asked where we were...

Rest in Peace, meaningful goodbyes

Rest in Peace, meaningful goodbyes

RIP (Rest in Peace) is one of the oldest wishes. People who plan ceremonies with me have this wish at heart. They believe creative, meaningful ceremonies make a difference. RIP may be one of the English language’s most widely understood acronyms. For good reason. We want peace at death Probably without a second thought, most people’s […]

Happy Holidays from Kinship Ritual. 2017 Bespoke Funerals and Education.

Happy Holidays from Kinship Ritual. 2017 Bespoke Funerals and Education.

My close-up on 2017 is coloured by Kinship Ritual. So I’m taking up a viewpoint that I frequently see in the media and beginning with the words: ‘We live in an era of …’ We live in an era of awakening to the reality that Death is part of Life. Those I’ve worked with this […]

Talking about what matters at end of life.

Talking about what matters at end of life.

Talking about what matters at end of life might feel really hard. But don’t leave these discussions for later. When it comes to palliative care, dying and funerals early conversations make a great difference to family and friends later. Have a look at my book ‘Death, a love project, a guide to exploring the life […]

Rituals of laying out and vigil

Rituals of laying out and vigil

This weekend I’ll be presenting at the first Melbourne Festival of Death and Dying. My topic is Rituals of Laying Out and Vigil. I wonder how you respond to this idea, and if you would come? You might think of laying out as being something that Catholics do, or that nurses do, or that people […]

Donating your body to science. And generous ritual.

Donating your body to science. And generous ritual.

I met Jack Bolt to find out something about donating your body to science. Jack’s wife,  Kathleen died in 2015. ‘My wife and my son and I had discussed the subject of death as a matter of fact that needed to be faced. Neither Kathleen or I felt we needed a funeral. But we were […]

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